“i’m not transphobic, i know loads of trans people”
knowing us / being friends with us doesn’t automatically mean you are an ally to us
allyship takes active work & time
being an ally requires listening to trans people, using the correct name & pronouns, practicing gender neutral language, learning how best to support trans people, showing up for us & amplifying our voices.
and that’s just a start.
having trans friends doesn’t automatically make you a trans ally
being an ally requires actively working to understand & empathise with us.
some women don’t experience periods – that doesn’t, in any way, de-validate their experience of womanhood. The same goes for men who bleed – they are still valid men. For people who exist outside of binary, it can be extremely frustrating to be not only ignored from the conversations about periods but also to be alienated from them. We must make an effort to change the ways we think about menstruation, as well as the ways we talk about it & educate on it. @superdrug are a great example of a company who have gone the extra mile to produce a gender neutral sanitary product line ‘Luna’.
kids are absolutely capable of knowing their gender identity. it’s up to us to listen to them.
society has done very little for trans youth, for many years. with the common assumption that kids are “too young” to know their gender identities, as well as lack of education & support in place for them & their peers, trans kids are at huge risk of mental health issues (such as depression, substance & alcohol abuse, suicidal thoughts and self harm).
very few children are allowed access to gender affirming hormone treatments. most healthcare services for trans kids are focused on the diagnosis of gender dysphoria and are meant to help predict whether a child’s dysphoria will persist or desist into adulthood. most are told to wait years, under the false pretence that “they are too young and will change their mind”.
in reality though, the vast majority of those who DO begin hormone treatments, do not change their minds.
(for the small percentage who do, this isn’t the horrible outcome that the conservative media outlets lead us to believe. sometimes ‘de-transitioning’ is a healthy part of a person’s psychological development.)
affirming a child in whatever way they express their gender is crucial for their mental health – including providing the correct gender affirming healthcare.
trans kids are not “too young” to know their gender identity.
trans kids are not going through a phase.
trans kids are not confused.
TRANS KNOW THEMSELVES.
BELIEVE trans kids LISTEN to them. protect them & keep them safe.