let’s start acting like there are infinite ways to experience sexuality / gender

being straight / cisgender is not the ‘normal’ way to live – it’s just one of many alternatives.

let’s stop forcing heteronormativity & the gender binary as if it’s the only way.

let’s stop expecting kids to be straight / cisgender – there’s a good chance they won’t be.

let’s stop telling kids they’re too young to know they’re LGBTQ+ but old enough to know they’re straight/cis – these double standards WILL harm them.

by basing the world on straight / binary models, we ignore a huge part of it

as well as continuing the marginalisation of LGBTQ+ people

let’s stop acting like it’s ‘normal’ to be straight / cisgender and ‘abnormal’ to be LGBTQ+

straight is not the template

“i’m not transphobic, i know loads of trans people”

knowing us / being friends with us doesn’t automatically mean you are an ally to us

allyship takes active work & time

being an ally requires listening to trans people, using the correct name & pronouns, practicing gender neutral language, learning how best to support trans people, showing up for us & amplifying our voices.

and that’s just a start.

having trans friends doesn’t automatically make you a trans ally

being an ally requires actively working to understand & empathise with us.

99% of people do not regret transitioning.

for the small percentage who do de-transition, it is not the terrible outcome that conservative media outlets lead us to believe

sometimes de-transitioning is a healthy part of a persons development.

let’s stop asking “but what if you regret it”

not only does it show great lack of understanding of our needs, but also it’s safe to assume we’ve thought about this for a very long time

of course, it’s good to show care & compassion. but it’s equally important to allow us the freedom to be ourselves

no one comes to this decision over night & when we do, we need supporting through it, only

let’s normalise the act of asking for and giving pronouns when we meet new people

you can never know how someone identifies & what pronouns they use based just on how they look – you need to ask them

if you can’t ask – use they/them until you know.

gendered language can be super harmful so making small changes to be more gender neutral and inclusive will go a long way.

for example, instead of saying “the woman in the hat” say “the person”. instead of gendering groups of people eg. gentlemen & women, use “everyone” “people” “persons” “folks”

it’s a privilege not having to worry about how someone will gender you, based on how they perceive your gender identity

appearance doesn’t equal pronouns

science supports that gender identity develops around the ages of 3-5 years, meaning yes, a child can absolutely know they are transgender.

of course this doesn’t mean every kid will realise they are transgender this young. It does mean though that the argument that kids are “too young” is scientifically incorrect – @pinkmantaray

“but what if they change their mind”.

in reality, the vast majority of those who DO begin hormone treatments, do not change their minds (99% of people do not regret transitioning).

For the small percentage who do, this isn’t the horrible outcome that the conservative media outlets lead us to believe.

sometimes ‘de-transitioning’ is a healthy part of a person’s psychological development.

affirming a child in whatever way they express their gender is crucial for their mental health

we must start believing trans kids.

listen to them & protect them

love them

trans kids need more

a really simple way to show someone you respect them & their gender identity is by using their correct name.

dead naming threatens trans lives.

doing so invalidates a persons authentic gender identity. not forgetting how hurtful it can be.

never ask “what name did you use before this” (it doesn’t matter)

never use a dead name. Even when talking about that person in the past.

avoid using the term “preferred name” – it’s not “preferred” it just is their name

don’t AVOID using someones name, this suggests you’re uncomfortable with their gender identity.

A dead name is called a dead name for a reason. It’s dead – SO NEVER USE IT!


let’s get inclusive

some women don’t experience periods – that doesn’t, in any way, de-validate their experience of womanhood. The same goes for men who bleed – they are still valid men.

For people who exist outside of binary, it can be extremely frustrating to be not only ignored from the conversations about periods but also to be alienated from them.

We must make an effort to change the ways we think about menstruation, as well as the ways we talk about it & educate on it.

@superdrug are a great example of a company who have gone the extra mile to produce a gender neutral sanitary product line ‘Luna’.

the future is gender neutral!

people of all genders can get their period



not only is outing someone unnecessary, it’s safety risk. you can never know how someone will respond to another’s gender identity or sexuality. often it isn’t well.

also, sometimes people are ‘out’ in some situations or around some people but not others.

in this case, it’s important to ask the person what language (including name and pronouns) they would like you to use, in those situations. be mindful. be careful.

it’s not up to us to come out for people.

“you’re just being sensitive” “it’s probably NOT transphobic..”

on International Day Against Transphobia, Homophobia & Biphobia I wanted to remind you of the following

trans people know transphobia better than anyone else does, we live it daily.

unfortunately our lived experience makes us experts at identifying transphobia when it presents itself.

no need to question us or gaslight us. just trust us. we know what it looks like best.

the same goes for the rest of the LGBTQ+ community.

would you doubt or deny the lived experiences of anyone else?

if we say something is transphobic, it’s transphobic.

#dayagainsthomophobia #dayagainsthomophobiatransphobiabiphobia #idahobit #idahobit2021