CONTENT WARNING ⚠️ following slides & below descriptions contain discussions of extreme violence, police brutality & death.

At least 350 transgender and gender-diverse people were murdered between the beginning of October 2019 and the end of September 2020.

This is a 6% increase from those who lost their lives in 2019.

Analysis shows that 98% of those murdered globally were trans women or transfeminine people. In addition, people of color made up 79% of trans people murdered in the United States during the timeframe they researched.

However, the numbers are not comprehensive, as it only includes incidents found online and those reported. Many cases of anti-trans murders aren’t known to the public because they are unreported or misreported, with many victims being deadnamed and misgendered. – @them

Today is Transgender Remembrance Day. A moment to pause, and reflect on all of the precious lives lost. I’ve added just a few of them to this post.

Allies: please take today to do some research & amplify the voices of trans people, more than ever.

Trans siblings: take a breath. Find a quiet space & have some time to yourself. Look after your mental health. This is often a hard day for our community, don’t put too much pressure on yourself. X

#transgenderdayofremembrance

[image descriptions: thread of images of trans people who have been killed this year.]

THERE IS NO SUCH THING AS ‘TOO SENSITIVE’

Throughout my life I’ve been told countless times that I am ‘too sensitive’.
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As a child I carried my emotions on my sleeve & this often invoked comments such as “lighten up” or “it’s not that bad” or “why are you getting so upset”
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I AM HERE TO TELL YOU THAT THERE’S NO SUCH THING AS ‘TOO SENSITIVE’.
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AND being sensitive is NOTHING to be ashamed of or apologised for.
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Sensitivity shows emotional intelligence, empathy and awareness. IT IS NOT A WEAKNESS.
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Never apologise for your sensitivity. It’s beautiful & so are you 🌈

LITERALLY. EVERY. SINGLE. ONE.

Whatever your gender, your race, your sexual orientation, your abilities, your size. Your body is beautiful and worthy of your respect & love.

Repeat it to yourself again and again and again, if that’s what it takes for you to believe it.

Let’s normalise self-pleasure, whatever you’re gender!

I’m super excited to be working with The Knude Society in an attempt to increase representation of self pleasure within the LGBTQ+ community. ( use discount code AZKNUDE15 for 15% your order with them – click here )

#nationalsextoyday

Personally I have used vibrators for many years, as well as other forms of masturbation, both before my transition, and now during it.

I’ve certainly felt shame talking about it in the past. There is a lack of open conversation around self-pleasure, especially within the LGBTQ+ community, and in turn this often creates shame around it. Of course, there are many other factors that contribute to this shame including dysphoria, gender stereotypes & societal expectations.

I’m here to try to OPEN THE CONVERSATION & BE YOUR REPRESENTATION. Pleasure doesn’t have gender & vibrators are for everyone who wants to use them!

We are all entitled to & deserve positive experiences in our own bodies, and we deserve the freedom to talk about it openly. LETS NORMALISE SELF PLEASURE!

Stay tuned for my review of Gwen #gifted (handheld vibrator) as well as the other products shared in the third photo. I’ll do my best to explain how they all work, and how I’ve found my experiences with them.

In the meantime, PLEASURE YOURSELF! Have a great day xxx

#TRANSGENDERAWARENESSWEEK

The first 3 steps to being a trans ally:

1. Listen to & share the voices of trans people! There are SO many accounts on the internet including mine, where trans people are pouring free resources out there for you to learn from. SEEK THEM. Follow at least 5 new accounts this week to help you keep up to date with transgender issues & education. SHARE THEIR RESOURCES. Amplify our voices!

2. Cut out any slurs / comments, like the above, that are toxic & harmful to the transgender community. If unsure, do the appropriate learning!

3. PUT YOUR PRONOUNS IN YOUR BIO. We need to make asking for & giving pronouns common place, not just within the LGBTQ+ community but within all people. We can’t assume someone’s pronouns based on how we perceive their gender. The only way to know, is to ask their pronouns. Let’s make THIS the normal.

Misgendering & dead-naming are threats to transgender people’s identities.

N e v e r use someone’s dead name or pronouns, even when talking about them in the past.

The term itself is pretty self explanatory. It’s called a dead name for a reason. The name is dead to this person.

I’ve heard in the past, people argue : “that was who they were back then, so surely I can use those pronouns / name when describing who they were then” – the answer is no. It’s never ok.

Dead-naming & misgendering are verbally violent offences that attempt to invalidate a persons authentic gender identity – @theadvocatemag

Doing either, erases the trans persons gender presentation. Not forgetting how completely it draining it can be to a trans persons mental health.

the following steps are crucial for ally-ship :

1. n e v e r use a dead name or pronouns.

2. Don’t AVOID using someone name / pronouns – that implies you’re uncomfortable with that persons gender.

3. DO avoid using the phrasing “preferred name” or “preferred pronouns”. It’s not preferred. IT IS.

4. Never ask “What name did you use before you used this name?” You don’t need to know it. (When do you hear people asking married folk, for their old name?)

In a society that attempts to erase us, I’ve known all too well the fear of being ‘unlovable’ / ‘undesirable’ as a result of my gender identity.

CW:/ discussion of body parts & potentially dysphoria inducing language.

When I first started openly discussing I was trans, I had many people (even friends) joke with me about how “weird” and “difficult” it would be for me to exist with the parts I have.

I was even given the offer once, unwarranted, to have “a mould” made from another persons penis, if I wanted it.

I don’t think I even knew at the time how toxic and hurtful these words were for me.

I’m aware that this is not unique to my experience, and in fact many other trans / GNC / enby people feel this way too, so I wanted to share some positive affirmations that we can try to remind ourselves of:

1. Love is not based on your parts. You don’t pull someone’s pants down, and examine their genitalia before falling for them. ⠀⠀

2. If someone makes you feel wrong / lesser / undesirable / unlovable because of your parts, THEY ARE WRONG. Not you. Your parts do not make you any more / less of who you are. ⠀⠀

3. Fight against internalised transphobia & DON’T LET PEOPLE TREAT YOU AS LESSER. Don’t stay in a relationship simply because a person says they love you, if their actions are transphobic / causing you harm. Someone else WILL love the WHOLE of you. ⠀⠀

WE ARE HOT & SEXY & WORTHY OF LOVE, WHATEVER OUR GENDER IDENTITY.

THERE IS NO SURE WAY TO KNOW SOMEONE’S GENDER IDENTITY / PRONOUNS WITHOUT ASKING.

PUT YOUR PRONOUNS IN YOUR DAMN BIO!!

– normalise sharing & asking for pronouns

– stop assuming pronouns based on how you perceive someone’s gender identity.

– The more normal it becomes to ask for everyone’s pronouns, regardless of appearance, the easier and more comfortable it will be to move through the world as an LGBTQ+ / enby / gnc person

Az Franco