THERE IS NO SUCH THING AS ‘TOO SENSITIVE’
Throughout my life I’ve been told countless times that I am ‘too sensitive’.
As a child I carried my emotions on my sleeve & this often invoked comments such as “lighten up” or “it’s not that bad” or “why are you getting so upset”
I AM HERE TO TELL YOU THAT THERE’S NO SUCH THING AS ‘TOO SENSITIVE’.
AND being sensitive is NOTHING to be ashamed of or apologised for.
Sensitivity shows emotional intelligence, empathy and awareness. IT IS NOT A WEAKNESS.
Never apologise for your sensitivity. It’s beautiful & so are you 🌈
LITERALLY. EVERY. SINGLE. ONE.
Whatever your gender, your race, your sexual orientation, your abilities, your size. Your body is beautiful and worthy of your respect & love.
Repeat it to yourself again and again and again, if that’s what it takes for you to believe it.
Let’s normalise self-pleasure, whatever you’re gender!
I’m super excited to be working with The Knude Society in an attempt to increase representation of self pleasure within the LGBTQ+ community. ( use discount code AZKNUDE15 for 15% your order with them – click here )
Personally I have used vibrators for many years, as well as other forms of masturbation, both before my transition, and now during it.
I’ve certainly felt shame talking about it in the past. There is a lack of open conversation around self-pleasure, especially within the LGBTQ+ community, and in turn this often creates shame around it. Of course, there are many other factors that contribute to this shame including dysphoria, gender stereotypes & societal expectations.
I’m here to try to OPEN THE CONVERSATION & BE YOUR REPRESENTATION. Pleasure doesn’t have gender & vibrators are for everyone who wants to use them!
We are all entitled to & deserve positive experiences in our own bodies, and we deserve the freedom to talk about it openly. LETS NORMALISE SELF PLEASURE!
Stay tuned for my review of Gwen #gifted (handheld vibrator) as well as the other products shared in the third photo. I’ll do my best to explain how they all work, and how I’ve found my experiences with them.
In the meantime, PLEASURE YOURSELF! Have a great day xxx
The first 3 steps to being a trans ally:
1. Listen to & share the voices of trans people! There are SO many accounts on the internet including mine, where trans people are pouring free resources out there for you to learn from. SEEK THEM. Follow at least 5 new accounts this week to help you keep up to date with transgender issues & education. SHARE THEIR RESOURCES. Amplify our voices!
2. Cut out any slurs / comments, like the above, that are toxic & harmful to the transgender community. If unsure, do the appropriate learning!
3. PUT YOUR PRONOUNS IN YOUR BIO. We need to make asking for & giving pronouns common place, not just within the LGBTQ+ community but within all people. We can’t assume someone’s pronouns based on how we perceive their gender. The only way to know, is to ask their pronouns. Let’s make THIS the normal.
In a society that attempts to erase us, I’ve known all too well the fear of being ‘unlovable’ / ‘undesirable’ as a result of my gender identity.
CW:/ discussion of body parts & potentially dysphoria inducing language.
When I first started openly discussing I was trans, I had many people (even friends) joke with me about how “weird” and “difficult” it would be for me to exist with the parts I have.
I was even given the offer once, unwarranted, to have “a mould” made from another persons penis, if I wanted it.
I don’t think I even knew at the time how toxic and hurtful these words were for me.
I’m aware that this is not unique to my experience, and in fact many other trans / GNC / enby people feel this way too, so I wanted to share some positive affirmations that we can try to remind ourselves of:
1. Love is not based on your parts. You don’t pull someone’s pants down, and examine their genitalia before falling for them. ⠀⠀
2. If someone makes you feel wrong / lesser / undesirable / unlovable because of your parts, THEY ARE WRONG. Not you. Your parts do not make you any more / less of who you are. ⠀⠀
3. Fight against internalised transphobia & DON’T LET PEOPLE TREAT YOU AS LESSER. Don’t stay in a relationship simply because a person says they love you, if their actions are transphobic / causing you harm. Someone else WILL love the WHOLE of you. ⠀⠀
WE ARE HOT & SEXY & WORTHY OF LOVE, WHATEVER OUR GENDER IDENTITY.
THERE IS NO SURE WAY TO KNOW SOMEONE’S GENDER IDENTITY / PRONOUNS WITHOUT ASKING.
PUT YOUR PRONOUNS IN YOUR DAMN BIO!!
– normalise sharing & asking for pronouns
– stop assuming pronouns based on how you perceive someone’s gender identity.
– The more normal it becomes to ask for everyone’s pronouns, regardless of appearance, the easier and more comfortable it will be to move through the world as an LGBTQ+ / enby / gnc person