In a society that attempts to erase us, I’ve known all too well the fear of being ‘unlovable’ / ‘undesirable’ as a result of my gender identity.
CW:/ discussion of body parts & potentially dysphoria inducing language.
When I first started openly discussing I was trans, I had many people (even friends) joke with me about how “weird” and “difficult” it would be for me to exist with the parts I have.
I was even given the offer once, unwarranted, to have “a mould” made from another persons penis, if I wanted it.
I don’t think I even knew at the time how toxic and hurtful these words were for me.
I’m aware that this is not unique to my experience, and in fact many other trans / GNC / enby people feel this way too, so I wanted to share some positive affirmations that we can try to remind ourselves of:
1. Love is not based on your parts. You don’t pull someone’s pants down, and examine their genitalia before falling for them. ⠀⠀
2. If someone makes you feel wrong / lesser / undesirable / unlovable because of your parts, THEY ARE WRONG. Not you. Your parts do not make you any more / less of who you are. ⠀⠀
3. Fight against internalised transphobia & DON’T LET PEOPLE TREAT YOU AS LESSER. Don’t stay in a relationship simply because a person says they love you, if their actions are transphobic / causing you harm. Someone else WILL love the WHOLE of you. ⠀⠀
WE ARE HOT & SEXY & WORTHY OF LOVE, WHATEVER OUR GENDER IDENTITY.